Confidence Vs Ego.

 "When you feel that you are right- it’s confidence,

And when you feel that ONLY you are right-it’s ego.”

Table of content{Index}: 1.Introduction. 2.What is the real meaning of confidence and ego? 3.Difference between being confident and being egoistic. 4.2 ways to be confident and control our ego. 5. Conclusion.

INTRODUCTION:

Most people say that “isn’t a little bit of ego good thing” and what they’re doing is, they’re mistaking ego and confidence.

When I was in primary, I was a cocky person[egoistic]. I was self-centered, I never considered others feeling, and I thought I’m perfect(which I’m not). But I was confused, I was considering my ego to be my confidence and not as an ego, I didn’t know that there is a fine line difference between being cocky and being confident. Which is a modern-day’s confusion.

So let us clarify this today “What is the difference between CONFIDENCE and EGO?”

Let’s begin with what confidence and ego really are?

WHAT IS THE REAL MEANING OF CONFIDENCE AND EGO?:

Confidence is a belief in one’s abilities based on experiences and faith about successful outcomes. Confidence is used as a motivation to do work and is constructive and has a positive impact. 

Whereas ego is usually arrogance, it is used as a motivation to overtake others by showing off what you have, making decisions just to create a misconception that they know everything, and having a destructive attitude towards others, which have a negative impact.

Let us now understand their differences.

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN BEING CONFIDENT AND EGOISTIC:

There is a fine and thin difference between being egotistic and being confident. 

Confidence is something that comes from our soul, which makes us happy about whoever we are. It gives us the courage to accept our imperfections and is open to learning new things. Because of this, they are like leaders who grow and let others grow as well. Whereas,

Ego is like a mask to hide our imperfections and to create false-confidence.

Ego is developed slowly by an individual’s experiences, the past incidences cause him/her to hide their imperfection as they are afraid of either being bullied or humiliated. (I have personally experienced this.)

Egoistic people tend to talk a lot, for example, when someone disagrees with them they will try and overpower and intimidate them by being loud with hopes that the other person will simply submit to them. 

The reason for this is because the egoistic person is not comfortable with the thought of being wrong and they are not open to new ideas and to learn new things. Because of this, they are like followers who neither grow nor let others grow.

I have observed this thing in some of my school teachers and also in my family, when they are wrong they increase their voice. (Truth is always bitter.)

Moving on to next, 

An egoistic person takes decisions that do not consider about feelings of others or their impacts. They’re afraid of feeling rejected and not being good enough. And this slowly becomes a life-long pattern until the person realizes it and takes care of their ego. This is why most people would hate them. Which makes them nervous and unstable around people.Whereas,

A confident person takes decisions by considering the outcomes as well as the feelings of others. This is why most people tend to like them. Which makes them un-nervous or stable around people.

Confident people show gratitude to others whereas egoistic people don’t. 

Whenever a confident person receives an award s/he gives acknowledgment to people that helped them get there. A great example of an arrogant person is Kanye West, if you have ever watched him receiving an award, you’ll see that he takes all of the credit and he never acknowledges anyone else. This is because he wants everybody to think that he did everything by himself.

2 WAYS TO BE CONFIDENT AND CONTROL OUR EGO?:

TO be confident, you first need to believe in yourself and accept the way you are.

1. Muhammed Ali once said, “It’s hard to be humble when you’re as great as I’m”. This is the kind of attitude we foster whenever ego takes control over us. We get taken away by our own achievements that we isolate ourselves from reality. So, in order to be confident, you NEED TO BE HUMBLE. When we remove our ego from ourselves, we discover our humanity. Which helps us to control our ego.

2. SHOW GRATITUDE. Don’t just make it all yours. We need others' help to achieve our goals. So whenever you get a chance thank them and give them the credit they deserve.

CONCLUSION:

To sum up this, 

BEING CONFIDENCE	BEING COCKY
1.It makes you smile.	1.It makes you angry.
2.It takes you forward.	2.It takes you backward.
3.It makes you lovable.	3.It makes you hated by all.
4.It makes you stable.	4.It makes you nervous.
5. Show gratitude to others.	5. Always self-centered and arrogant.

 

Last but not least:

You should be an attitude(VANILA) ice stick dipped in selfishness(CHOCOLATE) to possess some ego(CHOCOBAR).